My uncle always teases me about my hairloss and weight although he is fatter and balder than I am, what to do?
My family is not really a big fan of this guy, and it is especially bad during holidays when he singles me out infront of everyone. Until now I have always taken it because I thought I had to be respectful but now that I am 25 years old I feel that enough is enough; any advice or snappy comebacks would be very much appreciated.
sounds like a bully
bullies are insecure abt there own fawls they feel like once they point it out on sum one else they have the upper game
so be an adult simply point it out 2 him or better ignore the situation over all
well if u were like him wouldn’t u feel the same way. I mean that u see someone who is almost like u and make it seem worse than u. Maybe he’s sensitive about himself or he’s a bully. Either way u have to make him stop. I don’t know how you’re going to do that because u are the only one who knows what would make him listen. All I can say is that everyone has a bully but it depends on how u react or handle to it that matters.
There are insecure people out there that will try to bring others down to make themselves feel better. I like to call them emotional bullies because they tend not to pick on people they think will fight back. You need to set FIRM boundaries and then STICK TO THEM. You have not said so I don’t know if you are the only one he is picking on. One option is to take him aside and tell him you don’t like it and want him to refrain from this obnoxious behavior. You can turn things around on him and tell him that he needs to find a mirror (in front of everyone). You can ask him outright why he persists in indulging in this type of unacceptable behavior but you need to get him to stop and I think the best way is to humiliate him in front of everyone else. It won’t be such a boost to his ego or as tempting to scapegoat you when a the negative spotlight is on him.
First, pull him aside privately and tell him that you don’t appreciate his comments and ask him to please stop. Who knows, it might work.
If that doesn’t work, then the next time he teases you, call him on it in front of everyone. Respond calmly and in front of everyone, tell him that you thought it was funny the first time, but it is getting old and you would appreciate it if he would cut it out.
If social pressure doesn’t work and he (or others) try to make it seem like you are too sensitive, then when he does it again, make a scene. Stand up, Be angry but in control, Tell him that you have asked him on several occasions to grow up and back off. Tell him that if he does it again, he will regret it and you are NOT warning him again.
If he does it again, you are free to punish him in any way you see fit. (for example, act feminine and start saying, oh you must love my body because you keep talking about it…. and then go up and rub yourself all over him. Unbutton your shirt a little and start touching him all over his head and saying, oh, we would make such a cute couple! Kiss me big boy!!, or you could walk over and just dump a drink on him and say oops, sorry, and every time you see him do it again and again, and say, oh, I thought it was still funny, you are just too sensitive. or you could just put a “kick me” paper on his back or a homemade bumper sticker on his car that says, “I support porn” or “I am an insensitive asshole” The ideas are endless.
Anyway, stand up for yourself. But don’t overreact or all anyone will talk about is how “YOU” behaved. You need to let your family see that his behavior is ridiculous, and you behaved reasonably, by asking several times for him to stop, before you responded.
Good luck!
When he starts making jokes at you…just given them back to him….tell him …”oh yeah..thanks for passing down the bald, fat-ass genes to me. I wish I could give them back to you in a little present!”
“alteast I look good bald, unlike some others!”
“there’s a difference between being over weight and being just plain sloppy…..& I know the difference!”
“No one cares what you have to say, they just keep telling you when we get together because they feel its only morally right and they can feed you all the leftovers!”
I hope this helps you a little bit. Good luck with dealing with him!!